Separation anxiety: helping a dog who struggles when left alone
Separation-related problems are one of the most common behaviour concerns for UK dog owners. A dog who is distressed when left alone is not being naughty. They are genuinely struggling, and they can be helped.
Signs to look for
Barking, howling or whining after you leave, chewing or scratching at doors and windows, toileting indoors in a dog that is otherwise house-trained, pacing, drooling, or not eating while you are out. Some dogs follow you from room to room or get very worked up as you prepare to leave. A pet camera can show you what happens while you are out.
Why it happens
Common triggers include never having learned to be alone, a sudden change in routine (such as a return to the office), moving house, a frightening experience while alone, or changes in the household. Pain and medical problems can also play a part, especially in older dogs.
Ways to help
- Build up alone time gradually. Start with seconds or minutes and increase slowly, only when your dog is relaxed.
- Make departures and returns low-key, and practise picking up keys or a coat without leaving.
- Exercise and enrichment first. A walk, a sniffing game and a meal before you go can help your dog settle.
- Give a long-lasting chew or food puzzle as you leave, if your dog will eat when alone.
- Use a safe, comfortable resting place, with a radio or soft music if it helps.
- Avoid leaving them alone too long while you work on it. A friend, dog walker or day care can bridge the gap.
- Never punish your dog for what happened while you were out. It increases anxiety.
Getting help
Start with your vet to rule out medical causes. They can refer you to a qualified clinical animal behaviourist. Look for accredited professionals, such as those on the Animal Behaviour and Training Council register.
When to contact your vet
- Your dog is injuring themselves trying to escape or is in severe distress when alone.
- The behaviour has started suddenly, especially in an older dog.
- Things are not improving despite gradual training.
Not registered with a vet, or need one out of hours? See our local vets near Horley.
This guide is general information for UK dog owners and is not a substitute for advice from your vet. If you are worried about your dog, contact your vet straight away, or your nearest out-of-hours emergency vet.
